So, you are single. So what? Does that mean you cannot go out and have your hair done or your manicure done once in a while? Does that mean you have to frump around in oversized tee shirts and sweat pants that have the crotch hanging near your knees? What are you hiding under there anyway lady? Who says you cannot have sexy lingerie if you are a single girl? Who says you have to have someone to admire it or to wear it for? Bah, to them! Bah, bah, bah!
Here is the real deal lady, the thing that the dating sites, the dating experts and the weirdo psychics do not want you to know: before anyone else can love you, you have to give yourself permission to be loved by loving yourself. Yep, read that two or three more times. You have to love yourself before you will allow yourself to be loved. If there is something that is keeping you from loving you, then you are going to keep others from loving you too. Let’s work on that right now.
Reach up and shake that pony tail out of your hair, ladies. Let that hair flow. Feel how it tickles down your back? Close your eyes for just a moment, silencing your inner critic. Now lean in to the mirror and open your eyes. Find something on your face, anything at all that you think is beautiful. If you find more than one thing there, well for you! Now focus on that one good thing, start changing the way that you look at the rest of your face. Cast off all of your self doubts.
Now, reach in the drawer and pull out your sexiest, sexy lingerie and slip it on. Feel how it whispers over your body, how it seeks out and clings to your curves. Run your hand down over yourself, feeling the unique rise and fall of your hands as it traces your body. The minute you start to think anything negative, you chase it away with a positive thought. You do this every day until you are using less and less self demonizing language. Be good to yourself. Give your body good foods and treats every now and then. Drink plenty of water and get a good night’s sleep. Don’t let stress take over your life. Wear sexy lingerie a few nights of the week instead of those floppy clothes you have been hiding in.
Stretch and work your body in some way that makes you feel good, no matter what it is. If you like variety, do a lot of things. If you like the same thing all the time, do that. Think of your muscles, gleaming and sinewy just below your skin. Think of how those muscles will look against the delicate material of your sexy lingerie. Be good to yourself.
Just as you are very, very good at loving yourself, just as your self confidence is starting to soar to its highest, love will find you. Not because you look better (although you might) but because you are ready to be loved. Aren’t you glad you are comfortable wearing sexy lingerie?
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