Confidence is sexy. There’s no getting around it – and if you poll a group of guys they’re most likely to tell you that when it comes to beauty, confidence is what makes a woman stand out. Have you taken that sentiment into the bedroom? If confidence adds sex appeal, how do you use it to surprise your significant other? By trying something new. Stepping out of your comfort zone in the world of lingerie can be a jolting experience. The unexpected adds an element of mystery and can seriously vamp up your love life!
When it comes to women and lingerie, there are generally two scenarios. One: You love it, obsess over it, spend tons of money on it, have a wardrobe full of it and make any excuse to buy it in multiple colors. Or, two: The whole idea makes you feel incredibly uncomfortable, seems like a waste of money, and frankly, isn’t for you.
One thing every woman does have in common is the desire to feel is beautiful. Lingerie has a special way of doing that. Lingerie is an indulgence, a treat to yourself, from yourself. Doesn’t your body deserve more than a $5 pair of packaged panties? It definitely does. You’d be surprised how refreshing it is to don a sexy bra and panty set that fits your body well. It’s like you’re wearing a secret under your work clothes. You could be sitting through long work meetings all day and you’re the only one who knows that sexy surprise you’ve got underneath your unassuming blouse and trousers. That is, until you share it with your special someone.
Finding the right lingerie can literally change your outlook! However, it’s been vastly underrated, condemned as racy and frivolous, and considered uncomfortable. If you think any of these things, you’re shopping for and wearing the wrong kind of lingerie! Ditch the regular old undies and start wearing fabulous lingerie. And don’t stop there – pick up a sexy nurse costume and use it for some role play. Do it once and you’ll never look back!
It all starts with this idea – trying something new. Step out of your comfort zone a little bit and try a lingerie set you may not normally purchase. Maybe you feel safe in slips – but try a teddy! It offers tummy coverage in a two piece set. Maybe you find it silly to buy a bustier, but the fun derived from the purchases is well worth it. You’d be surprised how exciting it feels! Don’t stress over looking model perfect (because, no one does) and remember that it’s the confidence that makes the difference. Take pride in your body and your feminine prowess and slip into something new and exciting. It may take some extra guts (or a glass of red wine), but your new found confidence will thank you, and so will your significant other 
Try these tricks for lighting the fire:
- Surprise your lover with a new lingerie ensemble underneath your unassuming outfit. When things start heating up and he finds THAT surprise – it’s sure to increase the heat!
- Even if your guy isn’t totally comfortable shopping for lingerie for you – encourage them to shop for you or with you when it comes to new things. You may be surprised by their selection! You’ll also learn their taste in lingerie. After all, it’s about both of you!
- Take baby steps. If you’ve never worn “sexy lingerie” then ease your way into it with a lacy bra and panty set. If you aren’t ready to go for the costumes, then don’t! Not yet anyway. Confidence comes with progress and time.
- Bottom line: Just go for it. There will be NO complaints coming from your significant other if he sees you trying to do something new and exciting. It will add a new element to your love life and you’ll never look back.
Bio: I’m a lingerie lover and shopping diva! I’ve been called an “underwear snob” by many, but I consider that a compliment of sorts. Although I’ve been saving my pennies in preparation for my September wedding, I’m also drooling over thoughts of building my trousseau! Aside from wedding planning, I love planning future travels with my hubby-to-be. I’ve got quite the travel bug and gathering an assortment of travel accessories for my honeymoon has been on my to do list!
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